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Retrain Your Brain for Happiness

What if you were able to access happiness, peace and experience profound well being anytime, NO MATTER what is going on in around you?

It’s completely possible! In fact, we are SUPPOSED to feel great!

Life is supposed to be juicy and exciting! That is why I’m so excited to be a speaker at this special, one time FREE virtual event!

My colleague and happiness emissary, Lela Texeira, has brought together 21 top happiness experts to bring you powerful tools, tips and practices to help you live the vibrant, joyful life you know is possible including me. These are just some of the amazing things you will learn:

  • The top 3 things that happy people do, to feel and maintain a happy mindset. The top 3 things NOT to do.
  • Simple tricks to get centered and peaceful when you’re feeling overwhelmed and stuck.
  • How to align and connect to your core being for greater peace, inner guidance and wellbeing.
  • How you can stay happy, balanced and sane even through divorce.
  • Expose the inner critic and how to “disable” the inner bully.
  • Discover the connection between your mind, body and emotions as keys to attracting the partner you desire.
  • Explore how intention and focus can transform how you are experiencing your life.
  • Quick, daily mindfulness techniques that reboot, destress and relax you.
  • The ability to access our innate wisdom and inner quiet, through grief and loss.
  • Discover your life’s deeper purpose and meaning.
  • The steps to creating your conscious, heart centered business and work: how to do what you love and get paid!

And so much more!

So click here to reserve your spot!
http://www.theartofeverydayhappiness.com/22a813

Hope you will join us and take this opportunity to experience more joy in your life!

Click here: http://www.theartofeverydayhappiness.com/22a813

See ya soon.

Have You Ever Been Told “You’re Just Too Sensitive?”

heartinhandsLet’s face it — being sensitive has never been highly accepted in a world that is not so sensitive.  I believe that is going to change. Actually, it is changing.  The energy in the world is shifting and sensitivity is heightened these days – even for those who have not previously considered themselves to be highly sensitive. We are going back to our true nature.

There are lots of terms for what I am talking about such as highly sensitive, empathy and super sensitive. None of them make me feel warm and cozy. And I actually didn’t put myself in this category until the past few years.    Expressing your feelings was not acceptable in my family and it certainly wasn’t the way to succeed in the blue collar printing environment in which I was a Vice President before starting my own business in 1995.

So why should you care if you fall into this group?

In part, it can explain some physical and emotional challenges you may be experiencing as things in our world continue to shift.  But it’s also a positive. It actually puts you ahead of the curve as we move into a world that values six senses and not just five.  If you are a sensitive person, you’ve already been using your sixth sense – your intuition  – as well as your highly receptive nervous system.

But are you using them in a way that really works for you?

That’s what I want to see happen for all of us.  I have seen a variety of statistics on the percentage of people who are highly sensitive. But my guess is that it is higher for those of you who have been drawn to this newsletter.

I am calling this group of people of which I am a member, Sentelligent ™. Because we have a level of intelligence – a uniquely perceptive sensory system – that is heightened and  very smart.  We just have to learn how to nurture, listen to and honor what it is telling us.

From that powerful place we can learn to be happier and more successful in our businesses and lives.

Here are some signs that you may be A Sentelligent Person.  See how many resonate with you.

(You may not resonate with all of them and a statement may not feel true 100% of the time. If a majority of the statements feel true to you, then likelihood is you are A Sentelligent Person!)

    1. You have been told at some point in your life that you were “too sensitive” or scorned or mocked for “over-reacting” to
    things.

    2. You feel emotions deeply.  You may feel as if you “wear your emotions on your sleeves” but not necessarily. Men and those of you who are still in the corporate world may feel things but not show emotions due to cultural training that it is not okay to do so.

    3. You may be aware of the emotions of people around you.

    4. An insult or unkind remark will affect you deeply.

    5. Sights, smells, sounds, touches, changes in temperature and tastes may come through at heightened levels.

    6. You feel deeply for others’ suffering or connections. You may cry at Hallmark commercials or when others cry or when you connect deeply with someone.

    7. May suffer from recurrent depression, anxiety or other psychological disorders.

    8. You may be keenly aware of and affected by beauty in art, music and nature. In this group are the world’s greatest artists and art appreciators.

    9. You may be prone to stimulus overload. That is, you don’t like large crowds or hectic environments. You feel overwhelmed and depleted by too much stimuli.

    10. You were a sensitive child.

    12. You sometimes feel animosity toward  your sensitive nature. Most sensitive people whole-heartedly wish they were tougher and more thick-skinned. They feel like their sensitivity is a weakness. Therefore some sensitive adults have learned how to hide their sensitivity from others.

    13. You may use words like I “sense things”, “feel into” things or are “moved by” things.

    14. You flow with your feelings – laugh out loud or cry when a line in music touches you.

    15. Your sensitivity seems to grow as you grow older or lose weight or from other changes in the body or environment

    16. You may have a good time in social gatherings but then feel tired or not so good the next day ( even if you didn’t drink)

    17. You may “just know” things that other people don’t seem to know.

    18. You may have physical ailments that are not easily explained or healed by traditional or non-traditional medical practitioners. (including but not limited to fatigue)

    19. You may have unexplained mood swings and unable to determine why you suddenly feel sad or angry.

    20. You are a good listener and people tell you their secrets

    21. You feel stress and excitement in heightened ways

    22 You have a deep need for fulfillment and meaning in your life

    23. Feel like you are different than others – don’t fit

    24.  May handle stress well in the moment and then feel badly later

How many did you resonate with?   Scroll to the comments section below and  let me know what you see for yourself.

If you would like to know more about how to manage your heightened sensory receptivity, claim your power as a Sentelligent Person, make a difference with others and create a success that is sustainable for you, click this link to attend my F’REE teleseminar where I’ll be sharing specific secrets for creating sustainable success especially for those of you who are sensitive. You’ll learn why it is important to run your business differently than many of the business gurus tell you.  Once you know what these secrets are,  you can take control of your business and create success in a way that nourishes you and amply provides for your and your family.

Here’s the link again to register for the free class: http://peacefulentrepreneur.com/class

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

from wikiHow – The How to Manual That You Can Edit

We are all different yet we have a tendency to compare ourselves to others. It’s human nature, and while learning from others is an important part of critical decision making, if it is used to reinforce an unrealistic or negative self-image it can be an unhealthy habit to get into.

I was going to writing an article about the comparison trap for entrepreneurs and then I saw this one and thought it was worth sharing. It’s not just focused on entrepreneurs but has some good points.  The point I would add is  quit worrying about what everyone else is doing and do what raises your energy.

Enjoy and let me know your thoughts.

Steps

  1. Recognize that comparing yourself to others is a bad habit. Culture often projects flawless skin, big eyes, full lips, small nose, pure white teeth, smooth and shiny hair, curvy body, and designer clothes for women and they portray them as being happy. They portray tall men with flawless skin, six packs, and designer clothes with lots of women, and they define that that is what makes a man happy. Culture is extremely successful in being able to brainwash people into believing they should look a certain way, act a certain way, be a certain someone, when in reality every single one of us is different. What culture does is categorize people and they want you to believe that you have fewer rights to be happy because you do not fit an idealistic lifestyle. That’s why lots of men and women resort to plastic surgery, hide away from society, and grow up thinking that there’s something wrong with them. Comparing yourself to others, especially celebrities, is a fine way to throw your self-esteem down the drain as there will always be those who are ‘better’ than you, and those who are ‘worse’ than you. In the end you will most likely end up wishing you were different with thoughts of worthlessness. It takes you nowhere, wastes a lot of time, and puts you in a psychologically terrible place.
  2. Realize that everybody is different, because we are.People are born to be different; no two of us are the same. We have different mindsets, we interpret things differently, we have different experiences, we feel different emotions. Even identical twins are different from each other. We all will always have room for improvement; nobody is flawless, whether it is on the outside or on the inside. As much as some people may want to believe otherwise, nobody is perfect.It would be wise to stop letting people get to you, and be open-minded and aware of what you are doing to others. Something you can do is start thinking how different they are from you.
  3. Stop being afraid to be yourself.Whatever size, color, religion, gender, race, or sexual orientation, don’t be afraid to be yourself. Nobody but you has the right to dictate what you do, what you think, and what you believe in. There is only one you; nobody has more rights over another person to live. Everybody comes into the world the same way; we all age, feel, analyze, and eventually die, so nobody is more special than another. We are all different. If you’ve forgotten who you are, find yourself again.
  4. Forgive and learn. Learn to recognize that holding a grudge only ties you down from what you really want out of life. Untie the knot and set yourself free. Better yet, analyze and learn what actually hurt you, and prevent it from happening again in the future.
  5. Understand that not everything is possible.You might have heard the saying, ‘nothing is impossible’. In reality that’s only denialism and false hope. You can’t fly, change the weather, time-travel, change the past, live forever, make someone else change unless they are willing to, fit in with everybody, or be somebody else. There are many more things that cannot happen in reality. Be yourself and appreciate where you are now.
  6. Learn to deal with change and embrace it.
  7. Whatever makes you happy, whatever floats your boat. If you feel you need self-improvement and have set yourself an attainable goal, go for it. If you believe that you really need change, do it now. Be sure that you’re doing it because it will make you happier, rather than impressing somebody else. For example, stop swearing if it makes you feel better. Learn to meditate. Start helping others. Learn a new skill. Improve your reading speed. Learn how to write poetically, work towards a better grade, be nicer to someone, try to be more outgoing, train yourself to run faster, learn how to wear makeup better, find clothes that will fit your frame, be a better wikiHow contributor, work harder towards that promotion, learn to better manage your time, change your habit of being a perfectionist, etc. Do it because you feel good about it, not because you feel bad about yourself. This is your life.

Tips

  • Don’t be afraid to put yourself first. You have needs, too. Take care of yourself. If you have a tendency to bend over backwards for others, read How to Stop Being a People Pleaser and How to Overcome Martyr Syndrome.
  • Make some mutual friends.
  • It’s better to be the original you than to be a copy of somebody else.
  • Learn to be patient and accepting with others. This can take a lot of training to do, but in the long run it will be beneficial for everyone.
  • Realize that some methods can work for many others but not for you. When this happens, don’t quit. Keep searching.
  • Learn from your experience.
  • If you don’t have a solid way yet, find a way to let out your anger, frustrations, disappointments and concerns, a way that you can depend on – such as keeping a journal, making a blog, making music, talking or writing about it with someone you trust.
  • It’s better to do it now than think back sometime in the future and ask yourself, “what if?”. It’s better to get hurt then recover from it than having to accept that you lived a very dull life, realizing that you were the one who held you back.
  • You can never be too old to dream, and it’s never too late to achieve your dream, one way or another.
  • Some things can be done and changed overnight; other things cannot be. Habits for example, can be extremely difficult to drop. Don’t be discouraged. Comparing yourself to others is a bad habit a lot of people have. It can take some time to change. Don’t give up. Think about it this way; if you don’t ever give up, you can’t ever fail.
  • If you’ve ever felt like giving up on life but came back from the thought, it’s because you have hope in you. Hold onto that hope. Always have hope in whatever you do, wherever you are.

Warnings

  • Beating yourself is a waste of time, energy, and self-esteem.
  • Don’t allow other people to compare you with others, either.
  • Don’t encourage others if you don’t want to hear it. Don’t make fun of yourself; others may start thinking it’s acceptable to make fun of you.
  • Don’t accumulate unnecessary pressure. Let others do their part too. If they don’t, make them. If they won’t, just let it be. If you have too many responsibilities, chances are you won’t be able to accomplish what you really want to, or even need to.
  • While comparing yourselves to others in excess is generally unfavorable while also conducive to paranoid behavior and depression, keep in mind it is important to still remain competitive in some measure to be successful. But do it from a fun, joyful place and know that there is enough for everyone.

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Peaceful Productivity

How do you get out of overwhelm, get into a peaceful state AND be more productive?

Here’s an idea from Dr. Steve Taubman.   It is a simple concept but who said things have to be hard?

Take one step of a project or something that you want to accomplish and engage in that step fully right now. See what happens.

Spiritual definition of stress

One of the goals of a Peaceful Entrepreneur is to have a successful business without all the stress.

webstersWe have all experienced stress more often than we would like.  Webster defines stress as “a constraining force or influence”.

I am reading Dee Wallace’s book, Conscious Creation. and found this spiritual definition of stress that I really like. . .

In our spiritual work, stress translates to, ” being in resistance to Source and applying force  upon self to control for Safety.”

With that in mind, ask yourself some questions:

Where am I resisting Source? the flow? my higher voice? my intuition?

Do I trust that I am safe or do I need to attempt to control things to feel safe?

And if so, how is that working for me?

It is human to feel like we need to be in control.  However, the miracles show up when we let go.

Where are you willing to let go today?

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Our body talks louder so we can get quieter

Most of us understand the mind-body connection and that everything is related.  Well, we understand it mentally. But I continue to get this knowing at deeper and deeper levels.  Perhaps that is because the amount of time that it takes for my  body to let me know I am off track is getting shorter and the decibel level is getting louder.  Or am I just more aware?  Perhaps both.

My husband, Mike, has aptly named it my back-up alarm.  This is definitely a man thing. You know how heavy equipment like forklifts, construction equipment and even sanitation trucks make a noise that goes beep, beep, beep when they back up.  It’s a safety feature.

Well, when I do something that takes away from my peaceful state, my body has an alarm system that almost instantly lets me know I am headed in the wrong direction.

Here are a few examples:alarmblue

When I am trying to figure something out in my head – I get a headache.

When I am putting pressure on myself to make something happen (which I was doing last night) – I got severe pain in my left shoulder and in my stomach.

It used to work for me to make things happen from my head — those days are long gone.

Here’s another one. A while back I was  annoyed with some people  who were supposed to do some things for me and it wasn’t happening in the way I had planned.  I got a strong pain in my neck. (get it – subconsciously I thought they were are a pain in the neck and it showed up as tension in my neck).

When I pay attention to these signs, and understand what they are trying to tell me, I can then then  release  energy from that place in my body and then the pain goes away.  No medicine required. Sometimes it takes a while to understand what my body is trying to say. And sometimes, I need an outside perspective.  But once I get it, it makes perfect sense.

How does your body let you know you are off track or headed in the wrong direction?

Pay attention and let us know.

A Noticeable Difference in Peace

As an empath, I have been practicing a grounding technique to help me from taking on other people’s energy. I have also learned how to recognize when I take on other peoples energy and release it. All of this has been very helpful.

On Monday, I learned a different grounding technique that I  have been playing with   for the past 2 days. I have been amazed at a significant difference in my peace of mind despite a multitude of things happening that could easily knock me off center.

The difference with this grounding technique is that as I am grounding, I am letting go of  current concerns, worries, conflicts,  etc and sending them down my virtual grounding cord.  And instead of grounding once or twice a day,  I ground throughout the day and I ground everything from myself, to my chair, to my computer, to my bed before I go to sleep.

The result — things happening easier, conflicts getting resolved by themselves without me having to say anything,  better sleep at night…I will continue this grounding ritual frequently throughout my day and let you know how it goes.

There is so much more I have learned about energy lately — such as how empathic people take on other people’s energy without knowing it and how this can and does lead to illness, insomnia, irrational mood swings and more.

More to come. And since I generally teach what I learn, I may even teach a class on this in the future  if there is enough interest.

Stay tuned.

Are the glitches disrupting your peace of mind?

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It is not uncommon to find glitches in our systems, in our program, in our lives.  We like everything to run smooooothly.  And many times it does.  And sometimes, it doesn’t.  So what to do when it happens?  Do you let this disrupt your peace of mind? For how long?

Today I was looking at my sign ups for my newsletter and one thing led to another. For whatever reason, I decided to sign up for my Living Your Dreams newsletter at the landing page of The Dream Movie and found that after I confirmed my subscription, it took me to a blank page that said something like “nothing here.”

My initial go to place was minor “panic”.  As entrepreneurs, I am sure you have heard the saying that the money is in your list.  Sounds a bit harsh. The truth is this is the main way I communicate with people who are interested in what I do.

I sent my assistant an email to look into it, but then my problem-solving mind wanted to figure it out.   After researching it and testing it for about 15 minutes, I am still puzzled as it appears to be set up correctly.

But I have other priorities for the day. I had to remind myself that all is well.  People are still signing up everyday.  Approximately 200 new people opt to receive my Living Your Dreams newsletter through that particular movie every month. They are still getting their confirmation email.

This is not worth disrupting my peace of mind or my productivity.

After all I had a blog post to write 🙂  and a speech to prepare for. And a full slate of  coaching clients today.

So did this glitch disrupt my peace of mind? Did it disrupt my productivity?  Yes, but just slightly and for a very short period of time. I have delegated it and it will get fixed.  All is well.  And I had good fodder for my blog post.

How about you?  How are you dealing with the glitches in your systems? We can intend for things to run smoothly and that will help. But when glitches do happen, take a deep breath or better yet, do the OMM.  It will provide the space so you can see that the setbacks are temporary, they will get fixed and you don’t have to be the one to fix them. Then take a look and  see how you can make lemonade from it.

Let us know how you are dealing with glitches as they occur in your life.

PS.  If you are ready rise about the glitches and align with the clients and business you desire for the rest of 2009 and into the new year,  grab a copy of my free Client and Sales Attraction Accelerator Kit which includes audio and transcript of 24 of my best ways to align with your desires now.  It’s my gift to you.

Putting the "Play" back in "Playing Big"

Nearly 1/3 of the people in my Peaceful Entrepreneur survey said they were playing too small and that was affecting their peacefulness.

So how do you play big and remain peaceful? How do you juggle all the balls that need to be handled when you are playing big?

For what reason do you want to play bigger?

Notice the word “Play” is next to the word “Bigger”girlwithball

What if we actually “played” with it rather than making “big” so serious. I’ve been taking myself too seriously lately. I mean I love the One Minute Meditation and the “I’ll Pay You To Be Quiet Contest was and is a fun idea. And all of it is impacting people’s lives everyday. But somewhere along the line I got too serious about it.

What is that about? I got too attached. Yuck – not fun.

Can you relate? Do you take your big dreams too seriously? They are important . . . yes! And we can move towards them in a way that is light and fun and brings us joy …one step at a time … unfolding in the perfect manner and timing .. growing and expanding our consciousness as we do.

Ahhhh . . . much better

Next time I will talk about some other suggestions for playing bigger while maintaining inner peace.

Why Lead from Stillness?

It is important to lead your life… your business… your career from a place of stillness.

What is stillness?

It is the practice of being in the moment rather than in the past or future. It is a place inside of you where inner peace can be found.

It is from this place that intuition can be heard more clearly and from which brilliant ideas are born. Creativity gets unleashed from this quiet place where there are no interfering thoughts. Connections to higher guidance are remembered and strengthened when […]

These days all you have to do is open your email to read someone’s opinion of what you MUST do to succeed in these economically challenging and chaotic times. Many of these letters are really well-written and will convince you that this expert has all the answers to your problems. But then someone else has another answer and insists that is the correct one. Who are you to believe?

Well, that depends 🙂 Those of you who have taken my Life Transformation Tools and More program know that I do not believe there is any one answer, tool, solution that fits all people at all times. It will depend on what is in alignment with you, your values, your beliefs, your situation and a bunch of other factors that could come into play.

That is why it is important to lead your life… your business… your career from a place of stillness.

What is stillness?

It is the practice of being in the moment rather than in the past or future. It is a place inside of you where inner peace can be found.

It is from this place that intuition can be heard more clearly and from which brilliant ideas are born. Creativity gets unleashed from this quiet place where there are no interfering thoughts. Connections to higher guidance are remembered and strengthened when we are not busy trying to figure things out.

This sense of peacefulness, knowing and connection can and does lead to more happiness and contentment with life in this very moment – rather than being hinged upon some future event.

You may be wondering what this has to do with leading your career or business. Perhaps it seems a bit contradictory to all the information out there about how important it is to act with speed. You may find yourself thinking: “For goodness sake, in these crazy times, who as time to be still?” You may even feel like being still is lazy.

But really nothing could be farther from the truth. Please understand, I am not suggesting that you sit on the couch all day and eat bon bons or that you sit on a mountain top and contemplate the meaning of life all day.

It doesn’t have to take long to quiet the mind. Actually, I have proven that it can be done in just one minute. And if you are like other human beings, you probably waste more than a minute in every hour during the day. You can learn the One Minute Meditation(TM) when you participate in the 30 day Stillness Experiment. It’s 100% f’ree.

But let’s come back to the bigger question at hand. What is the value of stillness in running your business or career?

When you ask for clarity and then get quiet and relaxed, you will be able to hear the answer. It may not come all at one time. It may feel like gentle nudging to do this thing here and then this other piece over there that may seem unrelated and then another, and then at some point in time, when you are totally relaxed, your answer… the one that brings these pieces together and totally resonates with your soul… comes up and whispers in your ear (or in an email or someone else’s speaking or a million other ways). And it feels so right, you just want to shout “YES” this is what I am to do next.

And when you know your “BIG YES”, acting from that place is joyful and easy and fun.

That doesn’t mean that your gremlins won’t show up later to doubt that you can do this. But you can face and clear those things with tools such as those I provide to my Life Transformation Tools members.

That is why leading from stillness is a process…

It must be learned because everything we have been taught is contradictory to that.

There are many factors that contribute to being still and leading from stillness. More than I can put into an article.

And it takes support because it is so contradictory to what we have been taught all our life and what the media and experts tell you everyday.

That is why I am creating some programs to support you in leading your life… your career… your business from a place of stillness.

Stay tuned.

In the meantime, take a moment to do the One Minute Meditation(TM) now. (If you are not familiar with the One Minute Meditation, you can learn it by signing up for the f’ree 30 day Stillness Experiment)

Warmly,

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The Peaceful Entrepreneur(TM) — coming soon

One program that is evolving and is a “Big Yes” for me is The Peaceful Entrepreneur: Leading from Stillness. If you are tired of being stressed out over your business or thinking of starting a new venture and want to lead your business from a place of peace and stillness with extraordinary results, you can sign up here to be the first to get information and apply for this special program which will be limited to a small group of people so you can get plenty of attention. I am considering an individual program and a group program. Those who sign up for early notification will also be asked your opinion, so you can have input on the final details of this and future programs.

If interested in receiving more information on this program, sign up here to be added to our early notification list. Then be sure to check your inbox and hit the link on the email to confirm your request.

About Stacey Mayo

Stacey Mayo is a successful Master Level Healer, Medical Intuitive and Coach and has been in business for over 25 years. She teaches people how to be very successful entrepreneurs in their chosen field and attunes people to be amongst the top in their field. Mayo has been training and certifying people to be Master Level Medical Intuitives and Healers for over 15 years. She has supported thousands of people in achieving better health and living out their dreams. She is an award-winning author and has appeared on the CBS evening news segment, Confident Women, and is a popular public speaker. She has appeared in Forbes, Newsday, the Wall St. Journal, Atlanta Sports & Fitness, Atlanta Woman and Woman’s Day. She is a former Medical Intuitive columnist for the Sedona Journal. She has been featured a number of times in the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, including the piece, ‘Midlife,’ which engages people in considering how they can stop deferring their dreams.

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