How to Stop Working So Hard

To Stop Working So Hard, you have to be different than you have been before. You might think you know how “to be” but likelihood is you do not. This is not the easiest thing to do.

I want you to know that you can do it and While it seems like it is not all that easy, I am going to explain it to you in a way that will make it easy. And the biggest thing I want you to take away today is that something else is possible when you are willing to do this.

So … all you have to do is let IT go. What do I mean by it? It is that thing you desire. Now you are probably thinking, yeah, I wish it was that easy. I understand that too. And I know that there have been instances in my life where it took me a long time to let go — to the point where I felt like I was giving up on what I wanted. But here is another thing, I was actually looking at other possibilities and in looking at other possible outcomes or ways for something to happen, I let to. And low and behold it happened.

But it is not necessary to do that and you certainly can. So how else can you do that? You simply let it be the way it is right now. And you may say, well I don’t want it to be the way it is right now. And that’s exactly the point. Then you are resisting what is. And as the old saying goes, what we resists persists. Take a moment and let that in, even if you’ve heard it before.

Now when I say be with it. I don’t mean analyze it. And I don’t mean repeat it over again in your mind. If you will just be with it, without having to think about it, you will see what you need to see.

There are times in my life when I have done this and times when I haven’t. Those times when I have done it were times when I let go. And I said earlier there are other ways I have done it as well. And those were in a time that I didn’t know how to let go. And sometimes I still don’t seem to know how to let go. And I do know how but I don’t think I do.

It can be done. You really just have to do it. and as we said that doesn’t seem easy so let me share with you 3 things that will help you with this

The first thing is you can do this if you tell yourself that you can. Think about it, that is true with most everything right. If you think you can’t you can’t and if you think you can you can. You have probably heard that before and it holds true here as well. Take a moment now to be with that. Don’t think about it, Just be with it.

Now the second is you can tell yourself this seems hard but it is not. because of course if we think something is going to be hard it will be and if our experience of something is that it is hard, we carry that forward and think it always will be and that does not need to be true either. But we have to let go of past experiences and our pre-conceived notions of how hard it has been or will be. Now take a moment to be with that. Again don’t think about it, don’t repeat the words to yourself again, just be.

Alright now, the third thing is you can tell yourself that you can have anything you want if you let go and be with what is. Again not so easy right, but that is the truth.

And so you may still not believe that you can do it. Now take a moment to think about something you want from your heart. Don’t analyze it. Just pick something and go with it. And so now that you know what you want, then let yourself be with where you are with that right now. and then that’s all there is to do. And allow whatever comes up to come up. So do that now.

Now if you don’t like what comes up, then that is something to let yourself be with as well. Don’t make it wrong, just be with whatever that is. And if you be with it rather than trying to do something to it or avoiding it, it will dissipate or shift on its own.

This article is an excerpt from my radio show on Sentelligent Solution Radio.

Join me on September 21st on Sentelligent Solution Radio when I speak about “How to Love Yourself Where You Are”. I will show you how to look at yourself through a whole different set of lenses and much more.

Cognitive Dissonance – Fun vs Spirituality in Business

Enjoying what you do is key to being in the flow — it is not the whole answer but is a great starting place. The person in this video is reaping the rewards of this. He is having fun at his business! What a novel concept 🙂

Where are you having fun and where is your business or career draining you? Turn up the volume on the places that are fun.

Peaceful Entrepreneur Survey Results Part I

I loved hearing what you had to say in The Peaceful Entrepreneur(TM) survey and found your feedback to be extremely interesting. There were 294 respondents. I divided the responses by current Entrepreneurs (230) and those who Wannabe (64)

One of the more interesting things to me was that people who had already taken the plunge and started their own business sleep better and believe it is possible to be both peaceful and successful than those who are sitting on the fence about whether to start their own business.

Actually it makes sense, because fence sitting is a very painful place to be. It is a place of inner conflict and turmoil and the longer you sit there, the more painful it can get. (I certainly have been there on many occasions).

So those of you have been considering starting your own business, take note.

Here is the data:

Do you believe that you can operate from a place of peace and stillness and be successful monetarily?

Entrepreneurs:

Absolutely 63.%

Conceptually, I get it but living it is questionable 34%

Wannabes

Absolutely 47%

Conceptually, I get it but living it is questionable 42%

The remainder were not sure and a very few said “no.”

I asked what gets in way of being peaceful and this was another fascinating response. The biggest thing in the way of peace for entrepreneurs is worrying about where the business will come from and then the 2nd thing in the way is procrastinating things that will bring in the biz. Ding Ding Ding. Who says we are not our worst enemies? And then the 3rd thing that gets in the way is overwhelm – just too many darn things that we can be doing and think we need to be doing.

There were many other high ranking items, but I am not going to overwhelm you with too much data at once 🙂 This seems like a pretty important place to start.

Data:

What if anything, keeps you from being a peaceful entrepreneur most of the time? Check those which seem to have the biggest impact on you:

Entrepreneurs (top 3 responses)

1. Worried about where biz will come from 53%

2. Procrastinating things that will bring in the biz 51%

3. Overwhelm 41%

This question was equally as interesting for wannabes.

The top 3 things that keep those who are considering starting a business from being peaceful are 1st: fear of trying and failing, 2nd: worried about where the business will come from and 3rd: lack of a plan.

So all of you who have been thinking about starting a business listen up; you can lie in bed and worry about what if you fail and where will the business come from or you can put together a plan. Is a plan foolproof? No, that is why I work with my peaceful entrepreneur platinum clients to but together a flexible plan, one that is in alignment with their big yes. Is it still possible to make mistakes? You bet, I’ve made lots. But rarely is a mistake critical to the future of a business. Rather it can be the turnaround point for doing something really great.

Take one minute to watch this video where Mary Brady shares the results achieved during her Peaceful Entrepreneur retreat day with me. You can see the 60 second video here.

For those of you who like to see the numbers, here they are:

What if anything, keeps you from being a peaceful entrepreneur most of the time? Check those which seem to have the biggest impact on you:

Wannabe’s (top 3 responses)

1. Fear of trying and failing 46%

2. Worried about where biz will come from 44%

3. Lack of a plan 41%

Again, there is lots more information from this survey. But I thought I would give you a few pieces to chew on. In future issues, I will be sharing more results as well as tips and support for moving past these top 3 issues and many more so you can make the impact you were meant to make in the world.

BTW, the reason I am so passionate about people becoming peaceful entrepreneurs is out of my own experience of stressing myself out unnecessarily over the years.

Am I peaceful 100% of the time? No absolutely not. I am not some guru living on a mountaintop. I am just another person like you who is learning to do things in a way that is more in alignment with my soul, one moment at a time.

How to Keep Your Idea Alive

candleinhandiStock_000001207176XSmallNew ideas are emerging — ideas that take people,  products and our planet beyond where they have been before. These ideas do not have to be complicated — most good ideas are not.

When we have a big idea whose time is coming – there is generally a resonating within us – a knowing. We may get goose bumps or chills or just want to jump out of our seat with excitement, it may bring tears to our eyes,  or a catch in our throat.

I have experienced these ideas and witnessed those ideas in my clients as well.

Often, after the excitement wears off, there is a questioning that occurs — an inner doubt.

Is this really something I am supposed to do? Will people want it? Are they ready for it? If it is such a good idea why hasn’t someone else done it yet?

My friend Jonathan Manske refers to this as “head trash”.  It is all the doubts and all the reasons to keep playing small.

When self-doubt, busyness, procrastination, etc. set in, it is easy for our great ideas to lose their sizzle and fade into the sunset.

Don’t let that happen. Big ideas require commitment. Make a decision to  go forward with your idea no matter what.  To hold that vision even when others cannot see it. To hold it  as something that has been given to you as a gift.

Do not take this gift lightly.  Do not brush it off.  Rather go forward with it one step at a time.

When we step into the next level on our path and in our business,  every old pattern that no longer serves will likely step up to be seen and to be cleared.  Look at this as an opportunity to step outside your comfort zone and s-t-r-e-t-c-h.  Look fear in the eye and say “hello”.  Do not try to squash it down as it will just get bigger.

As we move into this next level, it is likely also time to release old patterns that are holding us back, slowing us down or even making us sick.  If you are on a spiritual path,  then you may really identify with this. Some of these patterns are are ours and some we inherited from our family line or brought into this world when we were born.

Get support in releasing these old patterns  with the support of an intuitive coach or healer or learn how to release some of them yourself with Life Transformation Tools and More.

Take one step each day toward making your idea a reality.  That is how big ideas happen, one step a time.

Let me know what your vision or big idea is and I will also hold that vision with you.

About Stacey Mayo

Stacey Mayo is a successful Master Level Healer, Medical Intuitive and Coach and has been in business for over 25 years. She teaches people how to be very successful entrepreneurs in their chosen field and attunes people to be amongst the top in their field. Mayo has been training and certifying people to be Master Level Medical Intuitives and Healers for over 15 years. She has supported thousands of people in achieving better health and living out their dreams. She is an award-winning author and has appeared on the CBS evening news segment, Confident Women, and is a popular public speaker. She has appeared in Forbes, Newsday, the Wall St. Journal, Atlanta Sports & Fitness, Atlanta Woman and Woman’s Day. She is a former Medical Intuitive columnist for the Sedona Journal. She has been featured a number of times in the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, including the piece, ‘Midlife,’ which engages people in considering how they can stop deferring their dreams.

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