To Stop Working So Hard, you have to be different than you have been before. You might think you know how “to be” but likelihood is you do not. This is not the easiest thing to do.
I want you to know that you can do it and While it seems like it is not all that easy, I am going to explain it to you in a way that will make it easy. And the biggest thing I want you to take away today is that something else is possible when you are willing to do this.
So … all you have to do is let IT go. What do I mean by it? It is that thing you desire. Now you are probably thinking, yeah, I wish it was that easy. I understand that too. And I know that there have been instances in my life where it took me a long time to let go — to the point where I felt like I was giving up on what I wanted. But here is another thing, I was actually looking at other possibilities and in looking at other possible outcomes or ways for something to happen, I let to. And low and behold it happened.
But it is not necessary to do that and you certainly can. So how else can you do that? You simply let it be the way it is right now. And you may say, well I don’t want it to be the way it is right now. And that’s exactly the point. Then you are resisting what is. And as the old saying goes, what we resists persists. Take a moment and let that in, even if you’ve heard it before.
Now when I say be with it. I don’t mean analyze it. And I don’t mean repeat it over again in your mind. If you will just be with it, without having to think about it, you will see what you need to see.
There are times in my life when I have done this and times when I haven’t. Those times when I have done it were times when I let go. And I said earlier there are other ways I have done it as well. And those were in a time that I didn’t know how to let go. And sometimes I still don’t seem to know how to let go. And I do know how but I don’t think I do.
It can be done. You really just have to do it. and as we said that doesn’t seem easy so let me share with you 3 things that will help you with this
The first thing is you can do this if you tell yourself that you can. Think about it, that is true with most everything right. If you think you can’t you can’t and if you think you can you can. You have probably heard that before and it holds true here as well. Take a moment now to be with that. Don’t think about it, Just be with it.
Now the second is you can tell yourself this seems hard but it is not. because of course if we think something is going to be hard it will be and if our experience of something is that it is hard, we carry that forward and think it always will be and that does not need to be true either. But we have to let go of past experiences and our pre-conceived notions of how hard it has been or will be. Now take a moment to be with that. Again don’t think about it, don’t repeat the words to yourself again, just be.
Alright now, the third thing is you can tell yourself that you can have anything you want if you let go and be with what is. Again not so easy right, but that is the truth.
And so you may still not believe that you can do it. Now take a moment to think about something you want from your heart. Don’t analyze it. Just pick something and go with it. And so now that you know what you want, then let yourself be with where you are with that right now. and then that’s all there is to do. And allow whatever comes up to come up. So do that now.
Now if you don’t like what comes up, then that is something to let yourself be with as well. Don’t make it wrong, just be with whatever that is. And if you be with it rather than trying to do something to it or avoiding it, it will dissipate or shift on its own.
This article is an excerpt from my radio show on Sentelligent Solution Radio.
Join me on September 21st on Sentelligent Solution Radio when I speak about “How to Love Yourself Where You Are”. I will show you how to look at yourself through a whole different set of lenses and much more.
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