Sometimes we set goals because we think it’s what we should do or what we should achieve. Sometimes we like the idea of the end result, but not the daily to-do’s involved. So many times I see people who go into a particular field because they like the money that they can make and the freedom it will buy them. But they don’t like the things they have to do to get there. That’s not a great way to live our lives.
Sometimes we change and what was important to us before is not what is important to us now. And sometimes we have a million ideas and are not sure which ones to do first or we want to do them all at one time and feel like we’re spinning our wheels.
You may have related to one or more of those things or you may have been in a different place. Just notice what feels like a fit for you and what resonates with you. When you are aligned with what you really want, it raises your energy to think about it. Not just the end result that raises your energy, but the actual doing of it raises your energy.
You want to check in first of all with what your goals are that you’ve set for yourself and are you as lit up by the actual day-to-day doing of reaching the goal – the things that you need to do – as you are attaining the goal. Now when I say that, I’m not talking about the little administrative things. I’m talking about the bigger part of what you do. If you’re coaching, do you love coaching? If you’re speaking, do you love speaking? If you’re in direct sales, do you love selling? If not, that’s something to look at.
The means and the result both need to raise your energy. Again, not every piece of it is going to raise your energy, but the key is to find a way or a means of getting there that does raise your energy and does match your skills.
For example, I love coaching people. There’s not much I like doing more than that. I just totally love it. And I like coaching people individually, I like coaching people in a group. It raises my energy and it’s a good match, it’s a really good match, for my natural talents. So this is one of the main ways I help people live out their dreams because it’s a really great fit for me and I love doing it. I also love creating. And I love teaching. So I’m doing different things that are in alignment on a daily basis.
And of course, there are some of the details that I don’t like and I’m constantly looking for ways to delegate those, automate those, or find other ways of attaining my goals so that more and more and more of my day is doing the things that I like.
If you’re looking at what it is that you do, and you can’t find a means of doing it that raises your energy when you think about it, it probably is not the goal for you at this point in time. Now you may be attached to “there’s only one way” and what I want to say is there’s never only one way. No matter what other people tell you. And people will tell you that there’s this way and it’s the best way and it’s the only way. And it’s never the truth. It’s just their beliefs because it’s what’s worked for them.
And what’s important is to set goals that light you up and do it in a way that works for you, a way that matches your skills and talents in a way that is enjoyable for you. Pay attention if you already have a goal and the goal lights you up, look at the means and be willing to explore the ways, we’re going to talk about that more.
This post was excerpted from the class, “How to Get Back on Track With Your 
Dreams” by Stacey Mayo. To learn more and purchase audio and transcript of this class, go to http://www.balancedliving.com/online-store/scattered-sign-up/
